6 months

Looking for some light in the darkness. Am so so frightened  & lost - feel like giving up.

Diagnosed with gallbladder cancer after routine keyhole op to remove it. Spread to liver & aorta lymph nodes in stomach.

incurable and inoperable. Terminal.Given 6 months, option of palliative gemcis chemo to extend my life to poss 9-10 months. 

It’s all such a shock as feel well. I don’t want to leave my daughter motherless & the grief hits me like a tsunami. I work for a hospice and am so scared of dying.

counselling starts January but everything stops for Christmas.  
not sure what I’m looking for here as I know it’s rare & aggressive - but anyone in the same storm who might help me keep putting one foot in front of the other

  • Hi there I totally understand where your coming from.  I have been told I have between 5 to 6 months. I was diagnosed with a liver tumour. had a couple of treaments follewed by an assessment for a liver transplant. and was told I am classed too high risk. yes I have cried many tears since 17th december.  I have two children aged 22 and 31 years old. they lost there mother to aggressive cancer in July 2020. I kind of find comfort in knowing that I will be joining my wife,  But when it's comes down to it,  I'm  terrified of dying.  but I know there's nothing I can do, but just carry on.

  • Hello [@Loucollie68]‍ im Lauren, I'm not going through the exact same thing as you, but my dad is. I was told my dad has six months left to live 23/12/21. Bowel cancer which has spread to his abdomen. He is 62. He doesn't know how long he has left. But he knows it's now incurable. He's scared to die too. 
     

    in these horrible situations it's important we stay positive. I hear stories all the time of people who have been given 6 months and lived years. And I'm trying to think like that for my dads sake. I'm 27. His granddaughter my daughter is 7. My dad looks poorly. He's lost so much weight. I think it's positive though that you still feel well in your self. My dad is sleeping a lot. I'm not sure what to say in this situation. I've been trying to tell myself to prepare for the worse. But always expect the best. You have to keep going. Keep getting up. Keep in your routine. If you don't you will loose yourself. Please don't give up. Keep going. 
     

    sending lots of love. 
    lauren xxxx

  • Hello. I was given 12 months to live October 2020. I try not to let it stress me out, cannot change it so want to stay stress free and do the things I want to whilst I can. Lost my 56 year old sister June she never got a chance for treatment it was too advanced. xx