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Love1.
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Hi there.

I have been diagnosed with hormone sensitive breast cancer. I'm 34, and was hoping to start a family this year until I got the bad news. I'm waiting on a surgery date, followed by radio. And a few more results such as the mri, bloods and her2.

I have read up on tamoxifen and being told I can't or am not allowed to get pregnant was devastating. The side effects of tamoxifen really do scare me and i hate the thought of having to take it. Has anyone else my age been in a similar situation? Would it be ok to refuse the tamoxifen treatment? I am 35 next month and I know as u get older fertility can reduce anyway and I feel being on tamoxifen for 5 years is obviously going to hurt my chances. 

Any advice appreciated 

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    Hi there Love 1,

    Hopefully someone of a similar age will be along to answer as I am 56 so my child bearing years are in the past. I do understand where you're coming from though, having had fertility issues myself. I would speak to your breast care nurse about this as I've seen various options on this topic.  I'm sure there will be a way forward for you. 

    Best wishes 

    Jane xx

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    Thank you for the reply Jane, my husband is saying that I need to get better first which ofcourse is true, but at the same time I feel leaving it longer will be a bad thing. We only got married this year so its completely thrown any plans of a family out the window for now. Still really haven't accepted the diagnosis as this year I've been feeling the healthiest and strongest I've ever felt in my life. 

    I hope you are keeping well yourself. 

    Take care

    X

  • Offline in reply to Love1.

    Hi,

    I'm sure you will have options once you've had a chat with the breast care nurse. Have you had only local treatment or have you had chemo as well? I know its an awful shock isnt it? My BC was detected by my routine mammogram and like you, I was devastated but now I feel lucky and thankful that it was found and the treatment is relatively straightforward. Know what you mean about feeling so well and then this shock! That's the thing with C, you're not ill but it's something that can make you very ill. My advice to you would be explore your options and do not give up on your life plans. You have a future ahead of you and should ensure you do what brings you happiness. Everything will be ok :-)

    Take care and good luck! xx

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