Hi Katy

Im Tammy, I apologies if this posts twice I typed it out and hit reply but it vanished. I also have a Jacob (9) and two other children (7 year old twins) I'm not quite in the same boat as you as I only had my ct scan last week but fear I maybe in the near future. I was told from my ultrasound that there are many reasons a kidney can appear lumpy, although dr google (I know it's a bad idea) says otherwise and there must have been a reason they put me on the two week pathway. So although not the same as I've yet to have a diagnosis I can understand the worry and stress of waiting, I swing between I'm too young, I'm a year older than you so clearly not, and I want to see my babies grow up. Hopefully you recover quickly from the surgery and don't have to stay in too long, I know it's not the same as visiting but video calls are a good option. I commented on another sub forum on here, if you click my name you should be able to see it, a lady commented on there with the name of a Facebook support group that may be good for you. I'm very happy to listen if you ever need to chat or vent or whatever. Take care x

Hi I'm Jo, and I was diagnosed with kidney cancer nearly 3 years ago now , my tumour was nearly 10cm and was stage 3 grade 3 , I had a radical nephrectomy so lost my left kidney ! If I can offer and help or guidance in anyway please feel free to ask 

Hi Jo, thank you so much for reply! How did you find the operation? That is what I'm currently most nervous about. Mine is a partial so I have been told it is key hole. I have never needed GA before so that is scaring me, I had a caesarean with my little boy but that's totally different! How did you cope? I just keep bursting into tears every time I look at my baby. Do you have follow up scans now? X

Hi Jo, thank you so much for reply! How did you find the operation? That is what I'm currently most nervous about. Mine is a partial so I have been told it is key hole. I have never needed GA before so that is scaring me, I had a caesarean with my little boy but that's totally different! How did you cope? I just keep bursting into tears every time I look at my baby. Do you have follow up scans now? X

Hi Kate I was in hospital for four days , although mine was open surgery , the op itself for me wasn't as bad as I imagined although getting up from a seated or lying down position was challenging ! The pain was fine though , more uncomfy than anything ! I got scanned after 3 months as they saw a lung nodule that they wanted to rule out as a reoccurrence ( blessed to say it wasn't ) then I had a scan at 6 months then a year and then it went annually, and my last scan in June just came back clear too