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Husband 31 diagnosed with aggressive stage 4 colon cancer

Claire1984
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Hello all,

My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. I am not sure how to cope or have any sort of life at the moment. I am terrified every single day.

He is clinically already very unwell, he is in intensive care with bad fluid retention all over his body (including lungs), had difficuluty breathing so they have intubated him and he had an MRI scan yesterday which showed something on the brain they are investigating.

I am just a mess, the main reason is just 5 weeks ago he was fine, running arounf a field with our dog so the rapid deterioration is something I just cant process at the moment.

He went to the hospital but it took them a few weeks to diagnose him (which i am also angry about) but he ended up having an emergency surgery for an ileus which is when they mentioned the possibility of cancer to us.

Since then he has been on the ward but never recovered and then moved him to intensive care. They started him on emergency chemotherapy 4 nights ago and since then he has mostly been sleeping. I see no improvement or any good news, just that his cancer is 'very aggresive' and the cancer doctor has never seen a case like his before.

I cant function until I see some improvement in him. I cant bare the thought that he will never come home again and I am not sure how to survive at the moment day by day.

If anyone has any positive storied related to my husbands condition it would be good to hear. Any advice for me would also be appreciated (but until he is clinically better I am not sure what can help me)

 

 

 

 

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    Hello Claire1984,

                               having read your post l feel l want to reach out and give you a big hug,l hope you have others closer to you that can do that so much better.

     As you say,you can only hope for some signs of improvement.Having survived colon cancer that spread to my liver,l was horrendously poorly for quite some time and it looked very bleak back then.Six years on you would never believe it and l look younger and healthier now,than l did ten years ago.

    As you say he is young for this, and the cancer struck so fast, so l can understand why it took a while to get a picture of what was taking place.Now that his medical team have a clear understanding of his issues, they will really focus hard on trying to give him the best possible outcome.

    l cannot tell you everything will be alright, but l can say that it could be possible without in any way diminishing the really serious position he is in,, and truly wish that this will be the case.

    Just to let you know l am aware how much hurt you will be going through yourself,and your feelings of being a helpless onlooker.But you are there fighting for him ,just as l am sure ,he will be there fighting for you before himself.

                                   l hope there is a good ending in all of this ,

                                                                                                          David

     

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