Scared - newly diagnosed with breast cancer

Hi 

I'm 30 and have just been diagnosed with breast cancer after finding a lump around a year ago and only just getting it biopsyed. I have been for a blood test and mammogram the day I was given the news and then for an mri within 3days of being told. They done a contrast mri on my chest area and I have had a phone call from the hospital this morning to come in for another biopsy. This all sounds so bad and I just want to know if it spread any further than the breast as I have 3 young children my eldest being 7 and my youngest is 1. I've never been so scared of leaving my children in my whole life and to have to wait until the 21st which is around 2 weeks now for all results I don't know how I can cope? Has anyone else been through this and if so what do you think my chances are it's spread further than my breast? 

  • Rochee 

    I had breast cancer last July 2022 I'm now fully recovered and back to living life to the full 

    I'm here to help you along my lovely if I can and if you want me to . 

    please don't be scared diagnosis is a shock don't think you are dying you really are not , it's just a huge shock in a few days you will calm down and see things more clear you will be treated we have the best teams who will look after you .

    love Lara ️

  • Rochee 

    when they do the mri and cat scans ect this is just to get a bigger picture it doesn't necessarily mean it's spread it's normal practise to carry these out lovely .

    love Lara ️

  • Hi Rochie,

    I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis.

    How did you get on with your results on 21st? It is impossible to say what your chances are from what you know so far, but here's hoping that your results have mapped a clearer pathway for you.

    I have been diagnosed with 2 bouts of breast cancer. That was 13 years ago and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life. Please place your faith in your care team. Treatment can be tough, but you'll soon have it all behind you.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi Rochie

    I too was diagnosed two weeks ago with breast cancer! I'm older than u but still feel I'm way too young to be going thru this not that it should be happening at any age!! 
    All I can say is keep positive, these chat forums have helped me so so much and have helped me stay positive! I still haven't told my son but planning on doing this over the weekend..... something I am dreading doing? 
     

    I too am worried about the thought of spreading etc but these worries are all so so normal!! I just had a week in Tenerife with my parents for some rest before all the hard work starts and I was worrying all week, feeling my neck, feeling for lumps, bumps etc but it's normal! It's a horrible diagnosis to receive but we got this!!! We are strong people us females and defo can get thru something like this.....keep strong and message if u need to xxx

  • Hi Leanne,

    Breaking the news to loved ones is always difficult. You sound like a positive person yourself. The more positive you can be when telling them, the easier it makes for them to accept your diagnosis. It is good to keep the communication channels open, so that you can both talk through any fears openly.

    We all worry about spread, but there's nothing that we can do to prevent this. With time, most of use learn to accept that. What treatment are you having and when is it due to start? I sincerely hope that it all goes well.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi there 

     

    I told my son on Saturday and as to be expected he was heartbroken! We have both spoke now and I have been very open with him? We know it's going to be a hard few months but nothing we can't get thru? I have my MRI tomorrow and to say I'm a bit anxious is an understatement? Did anyone else worry about getting it thinking about spreading etc or is this just me and my anxiety!? 
     

    xx

  • Hi Leanne,

    I am glad to hear that you have now told your son. He will naturally feel upset, but I am sure that he will be a great support to you, as you go through treatment. It is good to hear that your waiting is nearly over. I hope that your MRI tomorrow gives a clearer picture of what you are dealing with. 

    As I said before, we all get super anxious whilst waiting for a treatment plan. Our over active imaginations also come into play, especially throughout the early hours of the morning. You will soon know exactly what you are dealing with and will feel much less stressed when you have a treatment plan.

    I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer. The second occurred within a year of the first. That was all 13 years ago now and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life.

    Please let us know how you get on tomorrow. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx