Boyfriend finished with me after diagnosis of Lymphoma

I'm struggling to wrap my head around the fact that my bf decided for me that he refuses to put me through this and ended our relationship. Although I partly understand why he thinks pulling away is the right thing to do, he didn't even have this conversation face to face. I was giving him space, just the obvious msg of missing him, which he would respond to saying the same. I'm absolutely heartbroken as this was my future Husband and we had so many conversations about the future. I know it's a process, but I miss him so much. I'm a Mother to two, just got through a nasty separation and he lit up my world. I've never prayed in my life but I find myself doing just that in hope for him to come back to me. 

  • I am so sorry for what you are going through.  Your boyfriend has had a huge shock......getting a cancer diagnosis is traumatic.  Your boyfriend's emotions will be all over the place right now.  I have been diagnosed with cancer twice and I can tell you, it caused a HUGE upheaval in me and my husband's life.  Cancer almost broke us up.  Give your boyfriend the space he needs to get himself together.  Let him know that you are there for him if he needs you.  I truly hope that you both get back together.  It is so sad, but this is what cancer does.......it is like a Tsunami in your life, and it affects those closest to you.  Good luck, Violet, xx

  • Update.. My ex bf has been diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma and sees himself as a write off and forcing me out of his life. He barely speaks to me, refuses to see me. I've tried everything to make him see that I want to be there for him. But he keeps saying it's not fair to take anyone with him. Initially 9th July he found out it was cancer, then 26th HL and has pulled away even more. I feel so helpless. 

  • This is such a terrible thing for both of you..........he believes that he is sparing you by pushing you away, but naturally, you want to be there for him.  He is still in shock.  The cancer diagnosis has turned his whole world upside down and he is still trying to get his head round it.  I know this is heartbreaking for you, but the only thing you can do is to give him the time he needs to process what has happened to him, and just let him know that you will always be there for him, no matter what.  There isn't really much else you can do. I feel so sad for you.......both of you,   take care, Violet, xx

  • Aimz  stand tall your going through a lot your a mother of two, gone through a horrible breakup previously , do not let anyone dictate what direction your life should go , don't pine for him show that you can do this for yourself and your children, you have all of us here backing you , we all are individual and all dealt with things differently, but don't set your sights lie you are doing fantastic you are an inspiration hold your head up high girl god bless