Can’t cope with the loss of my mum

I really can't cope I feel like I'm going crazy. I feel unpredictable. My mum aged 61 died of pancreatic cancer on my 40th birthday this April. She had her diagnosis on 1st December and I went to all appointments with her , she begged them to do something. She did have a stent fitted which prolonged her life but then she was in & out of hospital with sepsis and became of Covid we couldn't even visit. The last 2 weeks of her life I slept on the floor at her home next to her hospital bed as she was so ill. She had a horrific death I wish I could say she died peacefully but she didn't. I never cried only the last few hours of her life. Didn't even cry at her funeral. Since her husband has been spending weekends at an other woman's house not even 2 months after mum passed. Explained we felt so betrayed he since blocked us all I have nothing of my mums for comfort. I've sent letters asking for things. Really feel I can't grief probably although I am having meltdowns not sleeping. I'm a single mum and just feel so lost and isolated. I miss her dearly 

  • Hi adl,

    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss - I'd like to send our condolences and I can only imagine how incredibly tough this must be, no doubt made worse by the difficulties with her husband.

    Hopefully you have others around you for support that you can speak to. Please remember we are always here for support too, whenever you may need it. I'm sure there will be others here who have been through or are going through something similar, so hopefully you'll receive further replies soon. It may also help to browse the forum to find other relevant discussions and people to connect to.

    It may also be good to speak to someone for support and perhaps to help you process your feelings and grief. If you haven't already, have a look at Cruse - they have various information and also a helpline as well as a web chat and local centres; it may be helpful to speak to them and talk things through.

    Take care of yourself and take things slowly, one day at a time. And we're always here if you need it.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator