Hello Dezzi

I'm so sorry to hear that you've recently lost your Mum. It's obviously an incredibly difficult time for you and I think it's natural that you're feeling that you don't want to have any 1:1 contact with someone that you find frustrating, regardless of the fact that she is your mother-in-law. You want, and need, space and time to be able to begin to process your grief and also say goodbye to your Mum at the funeral without having to worry about others and how they may respond. 

Maybe have a chat with your husband. Let him know how you're feeling and that you need space during the funeral. I hope that he would be understanding and maybe act as a buffer between you and his Mum to give you what you need on the day. 

I do hope that all goes smoothly. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator