I really have no words for what you are going through right now and I'm so so sorry that your partner left you at your most vulnerable. He obviously does not deserve the incredible woman that you are. 
please focus on yourself and greviing for your mum and grandma for now. And my inbox is open if you want to talk x

Hi Gemmaw,

What a terrible experience you've had. My deepest condolences on the loss of your mum and your gran. It must have been especially hard for your mum to have been unable to attend her own mum's funeral.

You did well to bring your mum home for her last 10 days and to care for her between you. I am sure that this was of great comfort to your mum, as most of us would prefer to die at home. I lost my own mum to cancer and know just what a hard journey it is. I have had 2 bouts myself in the past 12 years, so have experience of the devastation that this disease causes to families. What ages are your children and, are they your partner's children?

Your partner sounds like a right cad to leave you at such a difficult stage in your life. It sounds as if he knows how defenceless you are at present and is using you accordingly.  Do you have anyone who you can confide in? If not, why not contact a counsellor, as it sounds as if you need some support and advice on how to deal with him as well as your grief.

My heart goes out to you and I only wish that I could help. Please remember that we are always here for you and keep in touch.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx