What do I do?

Hi, I've just turned 20. My mum unfortunately passed away late last month. She fought a brave battle of 4 years coping with various different cancers. I thought I would have much longer with her than I did. Things unfortunately moved along a lot quicker than any of us (including mum) expected. She was the only figure that I had throughout my whole life except my wonderful nanny and my sisters. However she was the only one I could ever talk to about my problems. I was her baby. I have just started university and I'm finding it incredibly differcult and lonely. Everything moved so quickly that it has only just sunk in these last couple of days and I don't know what to do. If anyone's is going through/been through a similar situation I would love to hear from you. :) 

  • Hello Ellena300

    I'm so sorry to hear that you've recently lost your Mum. Understandably it's an incredibly difficult time for you and to now have moved away to start university it's not surprising that you're feeling as you are. 

    I'm sure that they were will be student support services available at the university and I'd really encourage you to reach out to them for some support. I also wanted to let you know about a charity called Cruse who offer a number of different bereavement counselling services. Do have a look at their website. 

    It's good to hear that you have your Nanny and sisters as well. Do speak to them about how you're feeling. Talking about your Mum will help with the emotions of grief and loss that you're experiencing. I'm sure they would want to support you in any way that they can. 

    If you'd like to chat with one of our nurses at any point you're welcome to call them. They're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    Keep in touch Ellena. We know that grief can be a lonely place to be but I'm sure the community here will try to offer any support that they can. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator