I lost my dad to cancer nearly two years ago and was a shock to the whole family. I don't think I really grieved and just got on with it and felt I had to be strong for my mother and sister etc. I distracted myself by being the one to organise all the practical things that need doing once someone dies.
I was close to my dad growing up and he was my best friend. My dad was a big influence and support in my life and he was the reasonable one when I needed advice and was anxious etc. I am a father to two wonderful boys 7 and 4 years. What is concerning me is that I am being very hard on my boys to be successful in school and their extra curricular activities and I know I'm doing it but can't seem to stop. It almost feels that I have to prove something to him and by my own children being successful it will make him proud. I know this may sound silly but it is really having a very negative effect and any advice or guidance would be appreciated?
