Struggling to get on with work since mum passed away

Hi there

So I've always been one to go and get a new job when things started getting boring, but since my Mum passed in March it has become somewhat different.

When my Mum was diagnosed last year I left everything behind and moved back home, as we knew time was running out. So I got a new job after moving. When my Mum passed I decided to go back, as I had nothing left with my Mum no longer being there. Fortunately, my employer at the time said I could transfer to the head office, as it was closer to where I previously lived. So I moved and quite my job a couple of months later as I just couldn't cope. I figured it might because I somehow saw a connection between the job and losing my Mum.

I got a new job and started in August and now I'm starting to feel a similar kind of anxiety. Am I not capable of working anymore? Has anyone else experienced something similar? I miss my Mum so much and I don't really struggle during the day, it's more during evening/night time. I just don't know if I actually have a problem or just ended up being unlucky with the new job. 

Any comments or thoughts would be very much appreciated x

  • I'm very sorry to hear you lost your mum earlier this year PinkPineapple - you have my sincerest condolences.

    Coping with grief can be very tough and it affects us all in different ways. What you're going through right now could be part of your grieving process so try not to be too hard on yourself if you're finding things a tad more challenging or difficult at this moment in time. 

    I'm not sure if this is an avenue you've explored just yet, but bereavement counselling could be something to look in to as it has helped many members of our community. Hopefully you'll hear from some of them soon but in the meantime we're thinking of you and sending our strength and support your way.

    Be kind to yourself PinkPineapple and take things one day at a time.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator 

  • Yes I have had the exact same problems after loosing my step father. Since then I have been looking after my mum but stuggle at nights the worse and it is hard to focus on getting on with life and often torture myself that I should have done more while he was receiving care in a rest bite centre where he passed away. I have had a  few minor health issues which have developed since July but am receiving some treatment to cure those symptoms I Hope! Anxiety and stress is the worst of things