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Moving away from bereaved parent

Abbie-C-12
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My Dad passed away two years ago -he was 54. My mum still struggles alot. 

My partner and I live at my mum's house (which was our family home with my dad). 

 

Recently, my partner and I have looked into buying our first home. We are looking at living a 45-1hour driving distance away. We want a different style of life.

 

I feel such guilt over leaving my mum. I always dreamed of having a close relationship with my parents especially for when I have kids of my own. Everyone in her life has left her or died. 

 

I know if my dad was still here this would all be okay. I don't know what to do and it is breaking my and her heart. 

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  • Hello Abbie-C-12,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat.

    I'm very sorry to hear about your loss and how this is affecting your mum, it sounds like you're very close to her. It's natural to feel this way so it's important for you all to be open and honest together, if you haven't had a discussion already. It's such a difficult decision to make, but having those discussions will help everyone understand each other, whatever you decide to do. If your mum ever needs to speak to someone, the Cruse bereavement helpline is available on 0808 808 1677.

    All the best to you,

    Moderator Anastasia

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  • Hello Abbie-C-12,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat.

    I'm very sorry to hear about your loss and how this is affecting your mum, it sounds like you're very close to her. It's natural to feel this way so it's important for you all to be open and honest together, if you haven't had a discussion already. It's such a difficult decision to make, but having those discussions will help everyone understand each other, whatever you decide to do. If your mum ever needs to speak to someone, the Cruse bereavement helpline is available on 0808 808 1677.

    All the best to you,

    Moderator Anastasia

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