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My Beautiful Wife

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I have lost her to cancer and it hurts like hell I've never felt such pain in my life, I can't see any future just a dark black hole my days and nights merge into one and I'm crying a lot of the time. I'm not asking for sympathy I know I'm not the only one going through this but can anyone give me any hope.

to make things worse we had good news after three rounds of chemo the senior oncologist said it was very encouraging and expected the next three chem sessions to have the same effect she planned on giving my wife two months off treatment to get her life back to some kind of normality we was soooo happy and booked a holiday which we should be on now and nice things to do !! The reality of it was my wife died three weeks after her final chemo treatment it didn't work like the first three sessions. 
I am so proud of her and love her so very very much

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    Hi Gary,

    I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife and I can feel your pain.

    One of the worst parts of Cancer treatment is, just when you think things are going better for a change, Cancer has a habit of crushing you again, I really do know.

    The pain is excrutiating and endless and I would love to say to you, that it will get better but I am afraid it doesn't. I was told that the depth of love you have for your wife, is equal to the depth of grief you are feeling.

    The grief will remain but you will learn to cope better over time. You will receive lots of different advice on how to move on but please, grieve, you grieve in your own way. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and there is no time limit.

    Let family and friends in, and allow them to support you. I am not going to tell you my story but just to say say to you, if you want to chat, please message me on this site. 

    As Babyem said in her easrlier post, grief is exhausting and tiring so please rest and look after yourself.

     

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    Hi Gary,

    I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife and I can feel your pain.

    One of the worst parts of Cancer treatment is, just when you think things are going better for a change, Cancer has a habit of crushing you again, I really do know.

    The pain is excrutiating and endless and I would love to say to you, that it will get better but I am afraid it doesn't. I was told that the depth of love you have for your wife, is equal to the depth of grief you are feeling.

    The grief will remain but you will learn to cope better over time. You will receive lots of different advice on how to move on but please, grieve, you grieve in your own way. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and there is no time limit.

    Let family and friends in, and allow them to support you. I am not going to tell you my story but just to say say to you, if you want to chat, please message me on this site. 

    As Babyem said in her easrlier post, grief is exhausting and tiring so please rest and look after yourself.

     

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