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Delayed grief

LW89
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My mum passed away in 2018 from lung cancer but I wasn't allowed to grieve by my partner at the time (we broke up 2 years ago). In the last 12 months I have had seemingly random bursts of grief and don't know how to move foward. It has become much harder to regain myself after these episodes. Those around me tell me that I should have finished gieving by now and shut me down when I ask to talk to them or become irritated

Any suggestions on how to move forward would be welcomed. 

Thank you

  • Hello LW89

    I'm sorry to hear that you lost your Mum to lung cancer back in 2018. Undoubtedly it would have been a difficult time for you and not being able to grieve properly at that point would have been hard. 

    It's understandable that you're experiencing some delayed feelings of grief and loss. There's no set time frame for dealing with these emotions and if they've not been fully explored then it's natural that they will sometimes bubble to the surface. 

    I'd recommend getting in touch with an organisation such as Cruse who are able to offer bereavement support. I'm sure that being able to talk things through with someone will help. 

    I do hope that you can find the support you need and that you're able to move forwards. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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