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I lost my mum 6 weeks ago now and I'm so so lost ! I miss her so much it hurts . Each day I go through the motions I get up washed go out etc but it's always there with me . I have great friends and family but Iv no one there at the end of the day. I come home and all I do is cry . My best friend , my mum is not here I can't text or call her 100 times a day for nothing but to hear her voice . I do talk to her like I'm mad but I need too as it seems the only way I'm getting through each day . She faught so hard for 27months , she had a horrible end and I can't unsee that . I always thought I was prepared but nothing will EVER prepare you for losing your mum. I'm just rambling here now but I just don't know if what I'm feeling is normal and will this pain I feel ever go away ? Xx

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    I lost my mum almost 5 weeks ago and she was 62. She spent her last few weeks in my home where I cared for her until the end, and the end is all I can see. Nothing prepared me for it and I'll never get over it. I also lost my dad 7 years ago so now I just feel completely lost and alone. She was my best friend and every day I don't speak to her seems to get harder and harder. I have 2 children that keep me going and give me a reason to get up and dressed every day and that's what's keeping me going. I haven't seen any friends since it happened I just can't bring myself to see anyone else or talk to anyone else.

    My mams macmillan nurse referred me for bereavement support and I had my first visit last week where they've put me on the list to get visits every fortnight so just waiting for my first one. Maybe try contacting macmillan or another cancer charity and see what support they can offer you?

    I hope you managed to get sorted xx

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    I lost my mum almost 5 weeks ago and she was 62. She spent her last few weeks in my home where I cared for her until the end, and the end is all I can see. Nothing prepared me for it and I'll never get over it. I also lost my dad 7 years ago so now I just feel completely lost and alone. She was my best friend and every day I don't speak to her seems to get harder and harder. I have 2 children that keep me going and give me a reason to get up and dressed every day and that's what's keeping me going. I haven't seen any friends since it happened I just can't bring myself to see anyone else or talk to anyone else.

    My mams macmillan nurse referred me for bereavement support and I had my first visit last week where they've put me on the list to get visits every fortnight so just waiting for my first one. Maybe try contacting macmillan or another cancer charity and see what support they can offer you?

    I hope you managed to get sorted xx

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    [@Amyv]‍ [@lappy2301]‍ I'm so sorry that you have lost both your parents at a young age. I'm 32, my Dad died when I was 15 and I lost my Mum to lung cancer 2 months ago today. Nothing will ever prepare you for how alone you feel when you're young and having to navigate the rest of your life without your parents guidance. It's an isolating feeling as it's likely none of your friends have gone through it; none of mine have.

    Sending you both strength xxx

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