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Hubby Oesophagus cancer

Jules65
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I posted on here on 2nd Feb 2021 saying that my hubby had been diagnosed with stage 4 inoperable Oesophagus cancer, his prognoises was 9 months but sadly it was so aggressive that he passed away on 30th April just 12 weeks later. 
My only comfort is knowing that he's not suffering anymore, but I miss him like crazy. 

We have a 17 year old daughter who I am so proud of, she is taking her A levels and trying to keep everything as normal as possible, she feels she copes better like that. She is taking each day as it comes some days are better than others but I and I know her Dad would be so very proud of her.

Is anyone else in the same situation, just after your thoughts for coming to terms with your grief and eventually moving  on to the "New normal life"  like returning back to work, learning to go out without them etc.

My best wishes and heartfelt condolences to all who have lost a love one, and my thoughts are with everyone who are fighting a terminal illness.

BW 

Julia 
 

 

 

  • Hello Julia

    I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's passing. It's undoubtedly been a very difficult time for you all. It sounds like your daughter is coping well and I can understand that you'd both be very proud of her. 

    I know that we have got a number of members here on the forum who have lost a spouse/partner and hopefully some of them will post to share their experiences and advice with you. 

    I did think that maybe you might find it helpful to have a look at the Sue Ryder website as well as I know that they have a specific bereavement community. Hopefully, you may be able to chat with others there as well. 

    Although it is a cliche, it's still very early days in your journey with grief Julia so please be kind to yourself. If you, or your daughter, want to explore bereavement support at any point then you can also contact Cruse. 

    You're also most welcome to keep posting here on the forum if it helps to have somewhere to write down your thoughts and feelings. We'll certainly do our best to offer any support that we can through this difficult time. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

  • Offline in reply to Moderator Jenn

    Thanks You for the links Jenn,

    it's approaching nearly 12 months since we lost Paul, and I can't say it's got any easier; in fact in some ways it feels worse now, I know I am still heartbroken and miss him so much.

    My brother also passed away in 2021, my sister in law had a mini stroke and I was made redundant in December 2021. Definitely the worse year of my life so far.

    I am just reaching out to anyone who are also struggling with losing a love one.

    Love and best wishes to you all 

    Julia xx 

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