Hi Mags,  I can relate to you. I lost my husband last June at the age of 57. Im 56 and feel exactly same as you. Weekends and evenings are the worst. 

While im at work im fine and try and keep busy, I have good friends and family but like you say they all have their own lifes to live. Its very lonely and alot harder than anyone can ever imagine. We were married nearly 38 yrs when he passed together from teenagers its horrendous.

take care Debbie

Hi Mags,

So sorry to hear about this, it must be very hard - my wife is ill at the moment and i feel i have just a small glimpse of what you're going through - my thoughts are with you.

I recall reading a post from someone in similar circumstances somewhere on hear (sorry don't recall the exact details) who had been supported really well by a support group call "Widowed And Young" (WAY) which i think is open to anyone widowed before their 51st birthday and they reported getting great support and comfort from speaking with other people in similar circumstances.

Hi, 

So sorry to hear your wife is ill i wish you both all the best.

yes i have heard of that someone in a chat mentioned it i might look at it. Its good to chat to people whos going through exact same so fully understands.

take care.

Hi Mags10

im the same as you I lost my husband two years this September I feel like you I have days that I’m ok and days that really get me down .  I always think about him every day I don’t think that goes away and I would never want it to either.  I always say goodnight  but try not to get upset. I have an amazing puppy well she’s nearly 2 now.  I don’t know what I would do with out her .  I have child at uni and my other who is nearly 18 who has now just gone out and said staying at friends for the night .  I do get a lot of time on my own as she is often out.  I will also turn 50 next year .  Just want to get it over and done with, I don’t really care about my birthday anymore. Message me anytime

hi there 

sorry to hear of your loss its so nice to be able to talk to someone who totally understands what your going through and being so young its harder in a way , but eldest daughter is 22 and so she was already going out when my husband was here but now like you my youngest daughter is also 18 and is out all the time and so i do have my own space , but as nice as it is sometimes i dont like it all the time but its something i guess we have to get used too.

I miss my husband so much and like you i talk to him ( well his photos) like hes still here dont think there is a week that doesnt pass that i dont cry over him it still feels so raw somedays and also i sometimes feel quality why i do not know , i suppose these feelings will get better over time .

nice to know that you have a puppy she will be a good distraction for you and keep you very busy lol

thank you for your reply so nice to talk to you and you can talk to me anytime 

mags 10