Hello Mickyboy52 and welcome to Cancer Chat, 

I can't even begin to imagine what that summer/autumn 2018 must have been like for you. Losing your daughter and then your wife within such a short space of time must have been so hard. It's so sad too that your poor wife didn't get to enjoy that new house. I can't believe that after going through all this you then had three strokes. I am glad that you could stay with your daughter and were not alone even though it must have been painful too to have to go through the process of selling your house. It made sense though to move back to an area where you had friends, family and support. I can imagine all this seems to be a blur especially with all this happening during these surreal times we live in, all these lockdowns, the social distancing, all this weirdness really at the same time as you were going through all this.

It does take time to grieve and there is no one right or wrong way to do it as you can read on our page on Coping with Grief  - you went through an awful lot losing your wife and your daughter in quick succession and on top of it all having to spend so much time in hospital yourself after your strokes. You are doing incredibly well given everything that happened to you in the last couple of years and I just wanted you to know that we are all here for you on the forum anytime you need to talk.

Many here have sadly also lost a loved one and will know how you are feeling at the moment. If you feel you need help too to deal with the intense grief of losing a daughter and a wife within such a short space of time, do talk to your GP about it who will I am sure be able to offer help or grief counselling to help you recover from all this. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator