I'm so lost.....:(

[[ ]]Hi.

I just need some help and support....im feeling so lost.

My Nan who raised me up and who i adored, passed away 3 weeks ago from suffering (in space of 2 months) 3 strokes, heart attack and being diagnosed with Lung Cancer (she survived Bowel Cancer 8 years ago).

Funeral as been and gone and managed to raise some money for Cancer Research.

I just cant start to grief.  Im helping my mum through this, as she has an alcohol addiction, so making sure she doesnt relapse.  

I saw my nan take her final breaths, and even visited her in the chapel of rest.  I still don't think its real.  Im scared that i wont grief properly.  Please help x Shelley x 

 

  • Hi Shelley

    Sorry that your nan has died.

    You sound like a very kind person helping your mum at this sad time for you all.

    It is often said here that everyone grieves differently, in their own time, so I'm not sure that there is only one way to grieve.

    I hope you will take comfort from the fact that you were with your nan as she took her final breaths.

    Please come here to share your feelings any time you feel the need to talk to others who will understand how you are feeling now.

    Best wishes

    Jane

  • Thank you for your reply.

    She was a wonderful woman, who unfortunately during her final months, suffered horribly from the cancer just apreading all over.  

    I appreciate everything that has

  • dear shel bell sorry about your nan, i lost my mum last december to ovarian cancer she only lasted three weeks in hospital, you mentioned your nan had bowel cancer eight before, my mum had breast cancer four years ago and because they got it early i thought everything would be  ok, but no matter what the cancer seems to win its way back, they could not offer mum any treatment because the cancer had  spread too far and they was nothing they could do, she sufferd alot in hospital could not eat , could not move of the bed, and they could not stop mum being sick, its really hard when they is nothing they can do or you, but although our loved ones have passed, they are do not have to suffer any more pain, although its hard i am sure you will get support like i over the past nine months, take care oggi

  • Hi oggi, so sorry to hear about your Mum.

    Yeah she suffered badly with the lung cancer. It spread so fast to point where she was