First of all I just wanted I'm sorry to hear the loss of your husband, this must be a truly difficult period for you still, and I hope you manage to find peace. 

But I had to reply to this, as someone who is grieving the loss of my mother, the post is a little bit insensitive to people who are going through cancer themselves, and those of us who are grieving or trying to support family members going through their journey. I agree with happydays29, some perspective would be good. 

Your son is also grieving his father, at such a young age. I'm a little older, and don't know which way to turn, so for him he must be so overwhelmed by the fact his father is physically not here with him through his life journey. It may be a shock to you, but regardless of this your son is healthy and feels like as his mother you should support him through what will be a difficult journey already becUse of unfortunate social judgement. 

A little bit of empathy to him, plus to everyone on this forum I think would be greatly appreciated.

Sorry if I have efended anyone this was not my intention and I am really close to my son and he has my full support and his family too .  Just shouldn’t have put this out there so sorry once again x

Hi there ...

I hope you can move forward and help your son through his grief and whatever path he takes ... if you can go forward with him ... then this thread was worth it if he gets his loving mum back ... then you can hold each other's hands going forward ...

It's never to late to change and become a mum he needs ... you can do this... I do hear love as well so concentrate on the positive and I'm sure you can understand how much he must be going through .. so take his hand and move forward together ... Chrissie x

Hi Victoria

We realise you didn't intend to cause offence, so just wanted to let you know that the moderator has changed the title of your post to explain your situation more clearly and avoid causing further confusion. I'm also linking you to a really helpful website called Young Minds which has a lot of helpful advice for parents and links to other supportive and informative websites

With best wishes

Moderator Sarah

Thank you Sarah I was wondering how to do this as I really didn’t want to upset people and thanks for advice.  I really love my children and will be behind them what ever they do just a hard one to get my head around x

Thank you Sarah I was wondering how to do this as I really didn’t want to upset people and thanks for advice.  I really love my children and will be behind them what ever they do just a hard one to get my head around x

Actually Victoria I did also come across this website called Mermaids which has an online forum similar to Cancer Chat  for parents of young people dealing with transgender issues. I think you might find some much needed support here. I hope it helps