Dads not coping, mum passed away 6 months ago

My mum died 6 months ago. Myself and my 2 sisters support my dad by cooking for him 4 nights a week. He can cook fine himself but enjoys the company. Issue now is that he keeps calling at my house outside of this for no real reason. I know he's lonely but I need to have a life of my own. My husband is feeling the strain and I'm torn. How do I tell him? Myself and my sisters all live within 4 miles of him. 

  • Hey! I'm so sorry to hear about your mum if I was in your situation I'd speak with your sisters and work out a schedule of who sees him and what days so you catch a break. And make him aware of how it'll work and be all upbeat and chirpy with him so he doesn't take offence. He definitely sounds lonely and maybe not ready to be left on his own just yet. What about bereavement groups? I know its hard with covid but any sort of group to help him find his feet again and some normality x 

  • Thank you for your reply. Have spoken to my sisters again. Dad is aware of what days he goes where but still turns up unexpectedly. He's a very active 85 year old. He's obviously missing adult company. We'll see how it goes. Hopefully as things open up again after the pandemic he'll be able to get out a bit more.