Lost my beautiful mum

My mum was diagnosed with cancer in 2017. She had stage 4 adrenal cancer and it spread to the lungs. She had chemo but nothing worked and they gave her 6 months to live. Luckily she had a few years but we lost her on 10th of March and just had her funeral on 24th. I'm devastated. She was my best friend and my mum all in one, my go to person everyday. And I'm lost without her. She was only 47 and I'm only 28. I thought we would be 60 and 80 together and had so many plans. I can't even begin to wrap my head around the fact I won't see her ever again. It's just so painful. She was the best person I knew. When will things feel easier? 

  • I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my beautiful mum on Mother's Day. She was 44 and I'm 26 and we just had her funeral on the 23rd. I feel so lost too. I feel horrific saying this but I almost feel angry at people who attended the funeral. They could have their cry and feel sad on the day and then back to their normal lives the day after whereas my life has changed dramatically and I have the deal with this pain for the forseeable. This is the worst part I think - the aftermath. 

     

    All I can say is that I pray it gets easier - and when I see posts like yours I feel reassured that I am not alone. I desperately wish that we could relate to each other under circumstances. The grief just pops up at the most random times. I am thinking you and you are doing a really good thing by talking about it and reaching out xxxxx

  • Honestly I could have written what you wrote. I feel the same anger. I was with my mum every single day and I feel angry that everyone could just come to the funeral and be sad on that day but then are fine, and can just carry on with their lives with their normal routines etc but I feel lost and like I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't cope, but I know I have to. As unfortunate as it is, I feel glad that someone understands how I feel as at the moment I just feel alone. 
     

    grief is so strange how it comes and goes at the most random things. Thank you for replying. I'm so sorry for your loss, this Mother's Day was so tough for me and I'm so so sorry it was for you too! xxx

  • I am so so sorry you are going through this! My thoughts are with you x

  • Hello [@StaceyH26]‍  and [@Emily112]‍ 

    I just wanted to say to you both I'm so, so sorry for your loss. You're both so young, and I cannot even start to understand how difficult this must be for you.

    I have also very recently lost my mum, I'm 33, but my brother is 27. She was diagnosed, but passed away a month later (which is now a month ago). 

    I keep reading with time that the heavy heart feeling gets slightly easier, and the good memories become to the forefront of your mind, and you can smile again. I hope this is true. At the moment it feels very painful to think about good times. 

    I wish you both a lot of love and strength on your journey take care of yourselves, it would be what your mum's would want for both of you XXX 

  • 33 is still super young. Nobody expects their parents to get sick or die and it's just unfair. Thank you so much for you kind words. All we can hope is for it to get easier. Sending lots of love straight back xxx

  • Hi  I have also just lost my mum on the 10th of feb. My mum was too young to die and had fought breast cancer 10 years ago. Only to find out just over 5 years later that she had leaukimia as a result of the treatment for the original breast cancer .my mum faught hard again but knew the leaukimia was here to stay but unfortunately only 2 years ago the breast cancer  had come back and spread to her sternum and her plural cavity and there was nothing that could be done my mum battled on but the cancer soo took over and was spreading through her body I feel lost angry and cannot believe she is gone I really  feel your pain x

  • I'm so so sorry, I feel your pain and anger, I really do. It's just not fair. As glad as I am that I'm not alone and someone understands, I'm so sad that the circumstances are so sad. I wouldn't wish this pain on anyone. I'm always here to talk, xx

  • Hello I'm sorry for your loss cancer sucks it took my wife from the 22nd of December last year she was 39 died of breast cancer that had eventually spread to her lungs.

    she left me with two boys I have a nine-year-old and a two-year-old every day is really hard I've lost the love of my life my soulmate I feel alone even though I've got the boys to look after I just feel broken anyway I'm here if you want to chat