Hi everyone 

My name is Tish and I have just lost my best friend and her dad within 10 days of each other. We knew her father was terminal with cancer, and when he passed away I was heartbroken as he treated me like another daughter. I was very close to him through his daughter whom I called Margi.  Her real name was Margaret.  She too had cancer, lung cancer which was her third round.  She had endometrial cancer in 2008, which was treated with surgery.  She had a reoccurring tumour the size of a grapefruit in her groin on the left hand side five years later and had to endure intensive radiotherapy, and then a huge surgery to remove the tumour leaving her with great mobility problems.  I stepped in to look after her, and after she came out of hospital, I looked after her 24/7.  Five years ago her father wanted to retire so he bought us a house where I live now, and after looking after her all that time.  She was diagnosed with lung cancer which had spread her lungs, and she couldn't do much, however, she did what she could around the house. I'd known her and her father for 20 years, she was my best friend, adopted sister, partner in crime, my soul mate. Two weeks ago, 10 days after we had lost her father, she became ill with pain in her back and chest which we thought was the cancer, but it quickly worsened to unbearable at which point I got an emergency ambulance.  They did tests and couldn't find the cause, so they took her into hospital.  The next day, the hospital called and said to come in.  She had had a type A aortic dissection, which had affected the only kidney she had left, and the team of doctors had said it would be better to let her go.  I was shocked and scared.  I had watched my husband die of lung cancer, so I let her go and I was there with her until she passed away.  The day before she fell ill, we had been to see her oncologist who said things were looking up, and the tumour might have shrunk, the kidney was doing great.  I feel cheated out of time with her.  It was so quick, and the cancer didn't take her.  I want her back.