Hi,

I have been following the online forum for a little while just waiting for someone to post with a very similar story to my own.

I am deeply sorry for your loss of your mum and know too well how you must be feeling right now.

I lost my mum on 17th February to lung cancer that had mets. I only found out on the 1st february after a short illness at home and eventually resulting in calling an amblunce for my mum as she really was not prepared to go to hospital regarding her symptoms. 111 and GP was a complete waste of time as they simply didn't listen to my growing daily concerns and the changes I was having to process.

I too feel guilty as I think I didn't make enough noise and was unable to protect my mum from covid that she contracted whilst in hospital a couple of day after being told she was terminal ill, in fact I recieved the news on my mums 70th birthday and I pleaded with the ward sister to let me open my mums cards with her ..... she basically told me my mum hadn't moved over to pillative care and was still waiting to have this confirmed, even through I been told they was nothing they could do for  her 3 days prior to her birthday which was on the 5th of February. I had to fight to see my mum which was   Eventually approved from Wednesday 10th February, I managed to get my mum home late Monday 15th February which came with lots of extra added stress that was very upsetting. I don't work in care and felt they knew best and I simply knew nothing and therefore I feel I've been pushed into decision without understanding what they was actually making me do. I feel guilty I didn't challenge them enough as I was to heartbroken to process the information and trying to remain calm and positive for my mum who by this point was very frightened and I was finding things incredibly hard to stay brave for her, as I knew I was going to lose my mum so soon and without any warnings. I haven't had my mums funeral yet and I am totally dreading this day as it's the day after mother day. 
 

I hope one day we could both look back on losing our mums and  truly believe we did our very best for them,  but sadly for me I am not quite at ease with this and hope one day I can except the things I wasn't able to change.

take care x

Hi,

I have been following the online forum for a little while just waiting for someone to post with a very similar story to my own.

I am deeply sorry for your loss of your mum and know too well how you must be feeling right now.

I lost my mum on 17th February to lung cancer that had mets. I only found out on the 1st february after a short illness at home and eventually resulting in calling an amblunce for my mum as she really was not prepared to go to hospital regarding her symptoms. 111 and GP was a complete waste of time as they simply didn't listen to my growing daily concerns and the changes I was having to process.

I too feel guilty as I think I didn't make enough noise and was unable to protect my mum from covid that she contracted whilst in hospital a couple of day after being told she was terminal ill, in fact I recieved the news on my mums 70th birthday and I pleaded with the ward sister to let me open my mums cards with her ..... she basically told me my mum hadn't moved over to pillative care and was still waiting to have this confirmed, even through I been told they was nothing they could do for  her 3 days prior to her birthday which was on the 5th of February. I had to fight to see my mum which was   Eventually approved from Wednesday 10th February, I managed to get my mum home late Monday 15th February which came with lots of extra added stress that was very upsetting. I don't work in care and felt they knew best and I simply knew nothing and therefore I feel I've been pushed into decision without understanding what they was actually making me do. I feel guilty I didn't challenge them enough as I was to heartbroken to process the information and trying to remain calm and positive for my mum who by this point was very frightened and I was finding things incredibly hard to stay brave for her, as I knew I was going to lose my mum so soon and without any warnings. I haven't had my mums funeral yet and I am totally dreading this day as it's the day after mother day. 
 

I hope one day we could both look back on losing our mums and  truly believe we did our very best for them,  but sadly for me I am not quite at ease with this and hope one day I can except the things I wasn't able to change.

take care x