Hi Janet, I just read your post and I'm so sorry to hear of yours and your families loss. I can only imagine how awful this must be for you all.. even the thought of something like that happening to one of my children upsets me so much. It's hard to know what to say in situations like this so I will just send you and you family hugs and the strength to get through this awful time xx

Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear your loss of daughter. My son ️Sunny ️ age 34, passed away on August 21, 2020 of lethal silent killer pancreatic cancer so sudden. He had so sign and symptoms. He was very health conscious, a gentle, caring, my first born child. He never smoked, no alcohol, exercising every day, working full time. We lived together. It's heart breaking,, I'm in denial, despair,  broken. I was uncosolable , with support from family and friends, counselling took the edge of it, loss of a child is unbearable, you don't expect your child dying before you. In November I joined TCF (The Compassionate Friend) , they are very supportive, full of compassion, all bereaved mothers and fathers.  Take one step at a time, big hug to you.

Ash

Sunny's mum xx

Thank you for your support. X

I am so sorry to hear of your loss that's just not fair . It heartbreaking to lose a child we will never really recover will we . I feel like I don't want to live at the moment that's a terrible thing to say because I have a son I love and he care alot. I will be having counselling shortly from the hospice. Due to covid the funeral still hasn't take place 2nd March. Take care thank you for responding its a great comfort. Xxx

Hi there,

It's too raw for you at the moment. I say the same thing I just wanted to sleep never to wake up. But I had to force myself to live for my daughter (Sunny’s younger sister) who is also grieving for her brother. They were very close, she moved only 18 months ago to Scotland with her boyfriend. I'm back to work full time (I'm A&E nurse) it's toigh, but helps me to distract my mind or else all I could think is about my son. I keep asking how? Why?? There is no answer but unexpected death of your child is just unbearable. It's so cruel, so unfair. No one understands a mother's grief unless you walk in same shoes. Please do feel free to write anytime. Pouring your pain, crying is little comfort. You can DM me. Thinking of you.

Big hug ️ ️

Sunny's mum xx

Thank you it good to talk, I felt so alone even though I know there are people like yourself out there grieving as well. I am in denial that I won't see her or hear her voice we would text ever day.

It must be so hard for you, as living with your son and being so close he must be everywhere you look in your home so sad for you. I don't like going out at the moment, I can see mum's with there daughters having a coffee and I cry miss her so much. Xxx

Hi

Sunny sounds a wonderful son, ambitious and had a alot to live for and a big part of your life which is a very special memory. Sad your daughter isn't closer it may of help you a little, but nothing replaces the lost of that person, their personality  there ways. I will be thinking of you.xx 

Hi Janet,

Loss of my son is so painful. I was such an extrovert person, always busy at work, home, travelling, socialising with friends and families. Now life is meaningless, I just exist.  Nothing can replace Sunny. For every parents children are so precious, you live, hope, make plan, look forward because of your precious child. We organised beautiful funeral for Sunny with the help of my friends and  Sunny’s friends his favourite songs were played, tribute by his friends, it was beautiful yet heart breaking. We don't expect such thing for our child. It's such heartbreaking.

Hope you get some comfort at this difficult time. Thinking of you.

big hug 

Ash

Sunny's mum xx

Hello I'm sorry for your loss my wife that's 39 she died of breast cancer 22nd of December last year how can that happen at such a young age! I've been with my wife's mum quite a lot of the time and she is absolutely devastated obviously the same as yourself left a nine-year-old and a two-year-old! My life is crap now just existing not living