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Mum died 3 weeks ago to lung cancer and I'm really strugglin

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My mum died of lung cancer 3 weeks ago after only finding out 6 months ago, we lost my nanna 4 months ago. I was with them both at end of life and really struggling to come to terms with losing the 2 most important ladies in my life so close together.  Can someone help as I feel like im losing the plot, im back at work on 8th March, I haven't been in since losing nanna in Oct was on the sick with stress and also on furlough but I really dont know how I will function in work as I struggle to get out of bed at the minute let alone run a college kitchen

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    Hello Kelly, 

    I lost my mum 4 months ago and my grandma 11 months before that. They both ended up in the same hospice in the same month 1 year apart. I was with them both at the end.

    both the most amazing ladies it feels kind of unreal. This is still so very raw for you. Trust me I know. If you can afford to stay off work. So do give yourself sometime to get your head around your loss. 
     

    I went into shock, 4 months on, I have had some ok days. Today is a bad day, I have stress at work and it's pushed me back into grief. You are not loosing the plot you are trying to adjust to the loss and what life is like for you now. It will take time, you need to be kind to yourself and take it day by day. Maybe ring your local cruse and ask for some online group sessions. I found that helped. 
     

    im sorry to know how this feels as it hurts, please take care, and it's ok to feel like you do. 

    April xx

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    Hi Kelly sorry for your losses.  It’s real tough when they find out they have cancer and die months after . I sadly lost my husband to lung cancer only after being diagnosed 3 months before . He was a fit and healthy man of only 54yrs old x

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