Mum died of Cancer.

My mum recently passed away suddenly with Lung Cancer, and has totally destroyed our family. 

She was unwell for some time but we didn't realise how bad it really was, and was due to be starting new treatment soon... But for a couple of months things got worse.. She was taken into hospital for low oxygen and I remember what she told my sister basically saying if she goes in, she won't come out and she was right.

She passed away on a Saturday as they was planning to get her to come home on the Monday,to spend some time at home, but we never got the chance to see her before she passed and had to see her at the hospital after it happened. My dad is destroyed they were married for 57 years and he has recently had a stroke and he can't cope without my Mum and nor can I, the pain is just unbearable.

 

  • Hello Dannyupset, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your mum and wanted to send you our sincere condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. It's so sad that your mum passed away just as they were planning to get her to come home and that you never got the chance to see her before. It must be so hard for your dad especially as he is still recovering from a stroke. I just wanted you to know that we are all here for you anytime you need to talk to others who understand what you are going through and who have also lost a loved one to cancer. I hope they will be along shortly and share their story with you. 

    There is information on this page  on Coping with Grief which I hope will be useful to you to help you understand the complex range of emotions involved in the grieving process and to help you cope in the coming days and weeks. 

    We're thinking of you during this difficult time and if things get too much for you or your dad, don't hesitate to talk to your GP about it and see whether they can help you get through these dark moments. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator