No not really  I've been told I'm doing all the right things for them talking let me rewind a bit We never told Connor  ( 9 year old )  mummy had  cancer mainly because of the cancer word!  My wife went into hospital because she was breathless and the doctor said it seems like you've got some kind of virus why don't you go to a hospice for a few days and then we can give you chemo for the cancer and things to go back to normal. When she was in the hospice I told her I had to tell Connor the truth just in case which she agreed to so I sat him down and I told him that mummy is running out of medicines to try there's about four more mummy can try and then we run out completely which obviously isn't good when is a good chance that she could die!  He said to me welcome mummy so poorly I had to tell him about the cancer The way I describe cancer to him was in your body you've got loads of good people look after you and one person went bad and when he tapped people on the shoulder they went bad to until there was hundreds of bad people and if mummy gets medicine that's like all the super heroes coming down to save her and kill all these bad people inside money that was the only thing I could think of but it worked and it helped him Understand what cancer is. My advice would be tell the children the truth because if it does all end badly by nine-year-old was very happy that he was told the truth and I've never lied to him! We had to have Christmas early which was strange horrible but kind of nice for the children because I got a chance to say goodbye About three days later she died. My two-year-old is constantly going Mummy mummy do you know something is wrong are used to talk on FaceTime all the time and obviously now we can't but he's okay The nine-year-old talks to me every day cries every day but the more talking we do easier things will be it's not a nice place to be in? I've told Connor mummy is in heaven and said about all the signs such as feathers smells butterflies Robbins So he's always involved  he helped me sort out the funeral and even the gravestone here if you want to talk