My husband died 6 days ago and today I feel completely numb . I've only cried once and that was this morning. I feel nothing yet he had a traumatic death, what is wrong me with today?
My boyfriend, who was 32, died 4 days ago just 7 weeks after finding out he had cancer.
I have cried a fair amount over the last 7 weeks but since he died I haven't really cried at all. I also feel like there is something wrong with me. I feel maybe it just hasn't sunk in yet. It was an incredibly traumatic few weeks of watching him rapidly deteriorate and it doesn't feel real
Hi I'm so sorry to hear about your boyfriend. I think we go into a numb mode to protect ourselves as the grief is to much. It must have been awful for you to watch him decline so quickly. When they are first diagnosed you pray they will be one of the lucky ones who get at lease 5 more years. My husband had a year and we hadn't sorted loads of things out yet. I think if we feel numb we need to just go with it. I've done a bit of research since yesterday and I was worried about it. But it seems a lot of people experience it. Stay positive , I know it's hard and sending love to you x
Its normal to feel numb, when it's so sudden, unexpected. It's been five months two weeks I still cry uncontrollably when my Sunny 34 age, passed away so sudden of pancreatic cancer. It's one of the lethal silent killer. He was extremely health conscious, gentle kind child of mine. There were no sign and symptoms. Sometime my body goes numb, I guess it's too much to take. It's a shock, you're in denial, that your brain, body is unable to cope. Take one step at a time,
my wife Died 22nd of December breast cancer she was 39 she died peacefully in her sleep at a hospice obviously she was taking loads of drugs at the time to keep the pain away but she was at peace when she went it took myself a few days for it to sink in I guess your brain is trying to protect you from the grief but for me I wasn't protected Long The grief is i'm bearable it's horrible! I don't think there's anything wrong with you i'm sure the grief is on its way but even though I don't wish it on anyone i'm here if you want to talk
Hi Chris , haven't seen you on the site for a few days , I hope you are coping ok , sorry that's a stupid thing to say of course your not. How could you be , iam 18 months in and still not coping properly. Some days , well most days really I think what is the point in anything anymore. If ever you want to talk just let me know. In the mean time look after yourself. Mike.
