Lost my wife to Brest cancer 5 days ago age39

Never done anything like this  before but been told talking can help. I lost my wife 5 days ago  wife was only 39 she left behind two young boys ages 9 and 2  she had Brest cancer  and after a long battle she lost the fight. Now it's just   me I some how have to be a mum  and dad and keeping strong for the kids  with all the mummy in hevan  and will always be with us but all I want  to do is to kiss her lips and cuddle once more.     29/12/20 day 8  of this nightmare children seem to be dealing with all this ok ish! 2 year old asked for mummy ever time the phone rings had to bath him without mummy for the first time  that was very hard but I think harder for me than him 9 year old very quiet always playing mine craft  but does stop and talk  about mummy when feeling sad with is hard but lovely at the same time. Going forward I'm thinking of doing a memory jar  so we can Remember things  about  mummy not sure what else I can do? 9/2/21 sorted all the funeral stuff out music photos etc not a job anymore want to do  it's all just a daze! Sometimes at night I here her talking to me  so I sleep well and morning comes and I'm hit by that train again  just going round and round 

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  • I really feel the pain you are going through, I lost my husband back in June and it feels like the pain I have will never ease. But I want to tell you, I meet my husband 36 years ago he had lost his wife, left with 4 children. When we met we just clicked, even though he had 4 children we were so happy, had one more child after we got married. It was hard work, but we loved each other so much, we just got on with life. I hope you will find happiness again, you may not feel like it, but you are too young not to find happiness. Take care of yourself. Your children will keep you busy, and full of love. 

  • Thank you for taking the time to read my message and reply !  That's amazing your husband  any your self hit it off  where did you meet ?  And how are you doing at the moment? I feel I have lost a big part of me and doing things I don't want to to register the death  ect ect all  I want is her love her so much she was so many thing s   Mummy to the kids / my best mate/ sole mate/ lover  I guess at the mo   I change every 5 mins is I miss my lover  I  no that's strange but  miss that a lot  scap that just miss all of her so much x

  • Hello, we met at a local hotel, the years have flown by, we were married for almost 36 years, we were so happy and loved each other so much, I hate this feeling I have of such pain inside me. I feel that I can not smile or laugh, I was so happy with my life, it's just so cruel it's been taken away. I am so lost, the pandemic has been just a double blow. I know I need to talk to people in the same situation, but we can't meet anyone to talk to. I can imagine how you are feeling, it's so cruel what you are experiencing. I know  we just have to try and stay strong.

  • I know exactly how you feel  all this staying strong is so hard  COVID dose not help at all your right all I want is my wife  and to kiss her x

  • I can imagine, all you want is your wife and to love her. It's so painful, nobody knows. 

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