Lost my wife to a type 4 Glioblastoma in 2 weeks!

Hi so my wife was recently suffering from migraines, which wasn't uncommon, but this time they lasted a few days.   We called the GP on day 4 and later that day we thought she was suffering from a stroke, due to her suffering from facial paralysis on her left side of her face.

she was admitted to hospital and after a CT scan she was diagnosed with a brain tumour.  4 days later she had surgery to remove the tumour, which was later diagnosed as a stage 4 Glioblastoma.   Sadly, she also suffered a stroke and we were told she would not be able to have any further treatment as her condition was not strong enough and she then passed away just 7 days later on the 30th November.

due to the whole covid situation I wasn't allowed to see her when she was at her most conscious and only saw her when she was in an induced coma and when she passed away.

we have a 3 year old daughter and I'm just lost.      We didn't get to discuss what was happening.    She had no real symptoms, and when she showed her first visible symptom she died just 11 days later.

they said it was a high grade tumour and it grew in 4-6 weeks.

my whole world was ripped away in less than 2 weeks and I just can't comprehend what has happened.

 

Parents
  • I'm so very sorry for your pain..... you are in shock and what has happened to you is terrible.    Be kind to yourself and gentle with yourself.   Only do what is right for you and your daughter.    Grief emotions will overwhelm you but try and take one day at at time ..... you are in shock and trauma.    There is no right or wrong about how your grief needs to be expressed ...... I am so very sorry.  

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  • I'm so very sorry for your pain..... you are in shock and what has happened to you is terrible.    Be kind to yourself and gentle with yourself.   Only do what is right for you and your daughter.    Grief emotions will overwhelm you but try and take one day at at time ..... you are in shock and trauma.    There is no right or wrong about how your grief needs to be expressed ...... I am so very sorry.  

Children
  • I am realy sorry to hear about your wife,My wife died of a Sudden heart attack on November 14th 2020 aged 67 and my daughter died age 25 on the 2nd of feb 2021 of a brain tomour .I am 74 years old and feel so alone now.I hope it all works out  good for you and theres light at the end of the tunnel you and your daughter.

  • I am realy sorry to hear about your wife,My wife died of a Sudden heart attack on November 14th 2020 aged 67 and my daughter died age 25 on the 2nd of feb 2021 of a brain tomour .I am 74 years old and feel so alone now.I hope it all works out  good for you and theres light at the end of the tunnel you and your daughter.

  • I'm am so sorry for your loss losing your wife and daughter must be absolutely horrible I lost my wife on the 22nd of December 2020 she is 39 taken by breast cancer let me have a two-year-old boy and a nine-year-old but losing two people so close horrible my heart goes out to you

  • Thanks Chris for your reply,I am sorry to hear you have losted your wife at such a young age of 39.I hope you and your family are coping well and life gets better for all of us.Its such a big life changer for all of us and so sudden,all my best wishes for all of you ,kind regards Peter.

  • Hi Peter , I would like to join Chris in saying how sorry I am for your double loss. It must be heartbreaking to loose your wife and daughter. I don't know how you manage to carry on , but we have to . My wife died July 2019 age 68. And 19 months on I still find it hard , I think the loneliness is the worst part. 
    Take care. 
    Mike. 

  • Thanks Mike,I am sorry to hear you have lost your wife in July 2019,I am finding it very hard to carry on and my life seems so pointless now.And you are right loneliness is the worst part and having memories every where you look around the house and the area.I am afaind the old world we use to have is gone now and the only way forward is keep active and try and make a different world with out them,I know this will realy hard after living with some one for 48 years.I hope and pray we will be able to except the loss of our love ones one day and try and get some happyness back in to our lives in time.Take care Mike and try to keep busy to take your mind off these aweful events,kind regards Peter.