My dad has colon cancer and doesnt want treatment

This year has been horrible for many reasons excluding the pandemic. My step father died from lung cancer in January and now I've just found out that my dad has colon cancer and he refuses to have any treatment for it. He doesnt want to spend his life in hospital and would prefer to live life as normal. I disagree but I have to respect his decision. However, because I dont live with him and only see him sparodically, its complicated. And as bad as this sounds, I dont think I can face this. I know this is not about me but I cant help but wonder WHY? WHY HIM? WHY NOW? I dont know how to have any more strength, I'm numb. Any advice would be appreciated

  • Hello Ma22,

    I'm sorry to hear about your dad and to hear that he doesn't wish to have treatment. If you feel you might need more information, we have some available on colon cancer here. It also includes advice on coping with the illness, which might be useful for you and your dad. While you may respect his decision, it's still important for you both to speak to the doctor about any concerns you have.

    It's natural that this news would affect your mental health so please try to look after yourself. If you need to speak to someone we have have a team of nurses available on the freephone 0808 800 4040. Lines are open from Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.

    I hope this helps and take care,

    Moderator Anastasia