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Losing my husband this year

Margarita77
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Hello, I'm new on here, my husband sadly passed away on 4 June this year at the age of 64 after fighting the good fight for 3 years, battling stage 4 metastatic pancreas and liver cancer. He was given 4 months to live but managed to stay with us for as long as he could. Unfortunately Covid stopped him from new trials after chemo stopped working. Within 2 weeks he went downhill quickly and passed away at home, as was his wish. Im still having very bad days, sobbing and missing him. We were married just short of 38 years and it was a wonderful marriage. We have a son and daughter and granddaughter. I find I have very little interest in doing anything, of course Covid makes it difficult too. I' have my own health issues so I have to stay at home.  It's been 6 months but I still feel devastated.  Margarita77

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    Hello Margarita 

    I feel your pain and am sorry for your loss.  My husband passed away a few days ago after battling bowel chance for three years.  It really is so hard to come to terms with his loss.  I share your feeelings completely.  We also had a wonderful marriage and loved each other for nearly 30 years.  I don't know how I am going to cope or get over these distraught feelings.  At the moment I can't sleep or eat  much at all.  I have three children and two grandchildren who are a fantastic comfort to me but as your will know nothing can replace the love that your share with a partner.  I think it is really difficult to go from caring for someone every day to nothing.  I hope that members of this forum can provide you with words of comfort.  I can only say you are not alone, take care of yourself.  Sending you much love x

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    Hi Kitty & Margarita,  I too lost my Husband of 36 yrs in June. He battled osephegus cancer for 12 months and died aged 57. We were each others lifes and did everything together i feel so lonely especially night time. I have a son, daughter and a grandson who are there for me but i miss him so much. After 6 months it seems harder not easier, still devastated. Take care. Xx 

  • Offline in reply to AlexMatthew

    My fiancé passed away last Thursday we had been together for 4 years and engaged for 2 sadly he only managed 5 weeks from diagnosis and was too unwell for chemotherapy. He had metastatic pancreatic and liver also. He was 37 I'm 34. 
     

    I don't know what to do or how to be I'm just exsisting right now, it still seems like it's not real. 
     

    people don't know what to say to me as we're so young and being in an empty home is hard especially at this time of year. 
     

    I think talking to people in similar situations can help. 

  • Offline in reply to Lisa.C

    Hi Lisa, 

    So sorry for your loss, so young bless him. Lifes so cruel. Its very early days for you and you will definitely need your family and friends round you. Try and take one day at a time, thats how i cope. 

    Take care

    Debbie

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