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Coping with loss My mums died and I feel numb

My mums died and I feel numb

Offline Nicnak13 over 4 years ago

My mum passed away a few days ago and I don't feel an over whelming feeling of sadness.

I love my mum more than I have loved anyone, she was my best friend, we did everything together.

when she was diagnosed I changed my hours at work so I could go to chemo with her, and for the last few months I haven't worked and cared for her.

I don't know if I haven't registered her death, but I don't feel like I thought I would. has anyone else felt like this?

I almost feel like she hasn't gone, I feel her with me all the time, I even talk to her still.

Am I going insane? Is this normal?

Offline aem01 over 4 years ago

Hi, my mum passed away 6 weeks ago & my emotions have been different to what I thought they would be.
I thought I'd be crying everyday & not able to carry on with life but I've just sort of got on with it.
From what I've read your brain can protect you & this is what I think is happening to you & me. We perhaps couldn't deal with the grief so out brain's have created a block until we have the strength to deal with it all.
Just take care of yourself, eat properly, try to get enough sleep & talk. Talking does help.
I hope this has helped, there is nothing wrong it's just the way you are coping.
Also you say that you feel she is with you, that is because she is still with & is giving you the strength.
I guarantee she wouldn't want you to feel sad.
Keep taking to your Mum because she'll always be with you.

Take care & remember there's always someone in here for you. Xxx
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