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My brother's funeral

DotingDonna
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I am devastated and heartbroken. Myself and mum dont speak with our sisters,  who one of them is next of kin. She is not letting us see my brother at the chapel of rest and will not tell us anything about the funeral.

I really have had enough, how can they be so bloody cruel. He wouldn't want this. 

He wanted peace.  

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    Hello DotingDonna, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your brother and wanted to send you my most sincere condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. It must be a truly heartbreaking time for you and it is really sad when family issues like this prevent you from seeing your bother at the chapel of rest or from getting information about the funeral. I hope that you manage to find a way to attend his funeral despite all the family tensions. As you said, your brother certainly would not want this and I am sure he would be really touched by all the efforts you are having to make to go and see him at the chapel of rest or to attend his funeral. 

    We're thinking of you during this difficult time. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator 

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    Hi Lucie, 

    I am awfully sorry, I hadn't realised you had messaged me back.

    Myself, Son, mum and two other brothers, never got to find out when the the funeral was. 

    So we were not there. 

    It has really upset us all. 

    However we will do our own celebrations when the covid is over. 

    We will celebrate his life with meaning. 

    Once again thank you. X

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    Hi there ..

    How crule ... it always seem to happen at these times, when people should come together ... but it seems to bring out the worse most times ... I was so lucky when my parents went ... us three girls held on tight and did everything together ...

    But I would say , if I were you and your mum, I'd do something with both of you .. write down your feelings to him ... play some music that reminds you of him .. you don't need his body there .. that's not him now, he's free and will watch over you both as you do it ... have a tea after ... toast him .. you don't need others or a church... he'll be tucked up in your heart now... and then you've nothing to thank them for ... and don't have to look at them ... you do your own thing ... I lost my sister at the start of covid .. so wasn't allowed in at the service ... only 10 .. 4 of us were outside .. but we were o.k .. and managed to get though ... so my heart goes out to you ... sending you both a vertual hug ... Chrissie xx

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