My partner died last month just 2 weeks after being diagnosed with cancer. Its only hitting me now that he's gone and I dont know how to cope. I dont even know what I'm feeling anymore. I just dont know what to do anymore
The feeling of loss stays with you , you can't hide it away a part of your life's gone . I don't try and cope , there will be to many feelings hitting you at once every day . I wake up in the morning with the feeling of loss and sadness, but then i take a few minuets of controlled breathing , and plan my day . Work for 3 days and 4 days off due covid . This means 4 days of not talking with anyone, in the first few months of my loss i set a task decorate my bedroom , sort out all the photos over the last 30 years , but it is very important not to make your self to busy . I spent 30 years walking our black labradors in the woods and country side, but 3 months before my wife passed away we had to have our lab put down. I joined the National Trust , English Heritage , RSPB . armed with a new camera spend my time getting out walking and enjoying the country side again. If you can just try and reconnect with life, like may be find a nice place to go for a tea or coffee once a week , do something for your self . And there will be times when your mind will move away from the pain your feeling at the moment . Chatting on here is a good start :)
The feeling of loss stays with you , you can't hide it away a part of your life's gone . I don't try and cope , there will be to many feelings hitting you at once every day . I wake up in the morning with the feeling of loss and sadness, but then i take a few minuets of controlled breathing , and plan my day . Work for 3 days and 4 days off due covid . This means 4 days of not talking with anyone, in the first few months of my loss i set a task decorate my bedroom , sort out all the photos over the last 30 years , but it is very important not to make your self to busy . I spent 30 years walking our black labradors in the woods and country side, but 3 months before my wife passed away we had to have our lab put down. I joined the National Trust , English Heritage , RSPB . armed with a new camera spend my time getting out walking and enjoying the country side again. If you can just try and reconnect with life, like may be find a nice place to go for a tea or coffee once a week , do something for your self . And there will be times when your mind will move away from the pain your feeling at the moment . Chatting on here is a good start :)
