My Mum has just died and I feel so guilty

Hi my Mum passed away last night from Cancer.  She was in hospital and we have been allowed in to visit. Last couple of days she had been more drowsy but night before last she was coming round a bit and recognised us so we thought she was a little better.  We left a little earlier that night and told her we would see her tomorrow.  Later that night she had a stroke and fell unconscious.  I just cannot get over the fact we left earlier.  She remained unconscious until she passed and I was with her then.  She wouldn't have left me she would have stayed all night :( I cannot stop going over it in my mind 

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  • Sorry for your loss, I know how you feel, it is a year next month that I lost my mum to cancer and I could not be with her right when she died due to having two children, one a baby and being a single mum, I know that my mum would not be upset about that and totally understand, she was afterall my lovely mum who loved me, the same will be for yours, that really should never be something to blame yourself for, just try to feel whatever happened happened for the right reasons, maybe she preferred to go without you there to protect you from the upset. I also know you will like me replay a lot in your head of what happened to try and make sense of it, try not to be hard on yourself, there is no right or wrong, she knew you loved her thats all that matters xx

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  • Sorry for your loss, I know how you feel, it is a year next month that I lost my mum to cancer and I could not be with her right when she died due to having two children, one a baby and being a single mum, I know that my mum would not be upset about that and totally understand, she was afterall my lovely mum who loved me, the same will be for yours, that really should never be something to blame yourself for, just try to feel whatever happened happened for the right reasons, maybe she preferred to go without you there to protect you from the upset. I also know you will like me replay a lot in your head of what happened to try and make sense of it, try not to be hard on yourself, there is no right or wrong, she knew you loved her thats all that matters xx

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