Hi there ...

Bless your heart ... my world is my granddaughter Emily... so I know how close we can be ... my granddaughter was only 5 when I got breast cancer... I had a grade 3 .. and total right masectomy... I thought my number was up ... she was the one that made it hard to think of leaving her ...

But I promised myself that I'd put as many happy memories in the time we had .. so every day was a bonus ... we've not waisted a day .. and here I still am 3 years later and she's 8 now ... and I can honestly say we have made a lifetime of memories for her to remember, weather I'm here a month or year or longer .. I will make every day count ..

I'm sure that's what your grandad wants for you ... we all have to go sometimes ... it's the meaning of life .. and you know my mum died suddenly from a heart attack and I had no chance to even tell her I was so proud to be her daughter... she'd gone in the blink of an eye ... 

So turn around your feelings .. stop thinking of him going ... if he's here today , that's a bonus ... so make everyone of those days a memory ... and then you'll look back and know you didn't waste a day ... no one knows if they have tomorrow... we could loose anyone ... so live in the day ...

Take care , and know your grandad will live in your heart forever ... I know I'll watch over my granddaughter... and bet your grandad will do the same ... Chrissie x

Hey Laury,

I'm a grandad myself, almost certainly with the same type of cancer as your grandpa.

I'd hate to think that any of the people I love were hurting 'for' me, especially without me knowing and being able to do something about it (as grandparents often can!).  I bet your grandpa would feel much the same way.

What Chriss said to you earlier makes a lotta sense.  So please concentrate on the positive memories you've already got - and think of the happiest ever moment you had with grandpa, hang on to the thought for 5 seconds and I guarantee you'll smile :-)  You might cry again too, but that's normal - and healthy - you're not a stone, you're a human being!

Take care :-)

Hi Chriss,

thank you so much for replying, you really helped me put things into perspective! And I’m sure your granddaughter will cherish those moments you both have had together 

Hi Bob, 

Thank you for replying, it’s nice to see the perspective of someone who’s in a very similar place as my grandfather, it has really helped me!