My wife died of terminal cancer in March

It's difficult to write this but maybe I will feel a bit better after doing it. My wife passed away in a hospice just as lockdown began in late March. We were soulmates we met 17 years ago in March we were married at Gretna green and honeymooned in the Lake District in a Mansion and it was beautiful. We were madly in love and had two beautiful children but my wife was very poorly so she went to the doctor 7 times in 3 months but he failed to recognise the symptoms of breast cancer. Eventually after several months it was diagnosed as secondary breast cancer and terminal. The children were 5 and 3 years old and I was running a taxi business. The diagnosis was 2 years at the best with chemotherapy and drugs.
From that day everything changed. I stopped working

to care for my wife and children.

Well that was almost 7 years ago now. My wife died 5 months ago and only 5 people were allowed at the grave and no church service. The children are now 12 and10 years old. We had Mother's Day just before my wife died then my daughters birthday 2 days after the funeral followed by my sons birthday 3 weeks later. We are still numb and time continues to run but our memories and pain stay the same. The children have been home since 15th March 2020 and today is late August I really can't believe how we have coped.

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  • I really feel your huge loss, this is no consolation but my husband was left with 4 children after his wife passed away, I met him and had one child, we were so happy for over 35 years, but a huge shock came last Christmas when he was diagnosed with cancer with months to live, we were numb with shock. Sadly he passed away in June, my life will never be the same, I know how you are feeling, you have to keep going for your children's sake, I know keeping busy helps in a strange way, but I am so sorry what's happened, life can be so cruel, I really hope you find happiness in the future as we did.It is early days, but please stay positive, and be there for your children who get over this better than we do.

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  • I really feel your huge loss, this is no consolation but my husband was left with 4 children after his wife passed away, I met him and had one child, we were so happy for over 35 years, but a huge shock came last Christmas when he was diagnosed with cancer with months to live, we were numb with shock. Sadly he passed away in June, my life will never be the same, I know how you are feeling, you have to keep going for your children's sake, I know keeping busy helps in a strange way, but I am so sorry what's happened, life can be so cruel, I really hope you find happiness in the future as we did.It is early days, but please stay positive, and be there for your children who get over this better than we do.

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