Why am I numb?

I lost my mum on Monday to lung cancer. From diagnosis to the end, it was so quick, little over a month. We were originally told she would have 3-6 months so me and my partner decided to bring our wedding forward. My mum was involved as much as she could be. She even saw my partners dress. 

Everyone is distraught. Obviously my dad, gf, brother and my kids. But not me. I've had tears but expected a lot more. I've been the strong one and have dealt with most of the paperwork etc. 

Me and mum were close so why aren't I in floods of tears? Is it because I knew she was going to pass so prepared myself for it? 

She's in a picture frame beside my bed and I chat to her morning and night 

  • Hi there,

    Similarly, my mum had a couple of weeks from when we found out something was wrong.. I think when you 'have to be the strong one' or hold the family together, the lack emotions is a defense to having to take that role, I don't think it's that you don't feel, or aren't grieving, but again similarly, I haven't cried as much as I thought I would, instead I just seem to get colder each day with less emotion.. I think it's a way of keeping yourself safe when dealing with the pain would be too much and ultimately compromise you holding everyone else together. I don't have any advice unfortunately, but hope that sheds some light.. Make sure to give yourself space and time if you need it, you are just as important.