Missing my husband

Hi, finding everyone's posts so comforting. I thought it was only me feeling the way I do. After 45 years together and almost 40 years of marriage, I know no other 'me'. I know me the homemaker, the problem solver, the taxi, the hospital partner, the home nurse, the worrier, the Carer but I don't know me the survivor, the remainer - this is all new to me and 11 months down the line it is no easier. I find distraction helps but it doesn't take the aching pain away. Is it time I need or will I never really come to terms with the loss? I don't expect to 'get over it' How can anyone do that?

  • Hello Swbf2016, 

    A warm welcome to Cancer Chat. I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you are finding other posts on the forum comforting. You are certainly not alone here and it is perfectly normal to be feeling this way after losing your husband. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and the grieving process is indeed very complex and also very personal involving a wide range of different feelings and emotions. You can read more about coping with grief on this page

    I hope that you will hear from others on our forum who have also lost a partner to cancer and that they will share their story with you and tell you more about how they coped after the loss of their loved one. It helps to know you are not alone in this and I hope that you will find some comfort coming here and talking to others who have been through this before. 

    Warmest wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator