Life changes after loss

June 9th was a year since I lost my wonderful Mum to breast cancer. It really has been the worst time and I am very proud of myself for getting through it, I know she would be too. I feel as though my perspective on life has changed. When she died my job felt pointless and I wanted to be closer to my family and friends, and live a quieter life. Those feelings have definitely stuck with me, it’s changed me. Myself and my partner (we have no kids) are considering making the move to a different location, we have been for a while. I’m wondering what changed for you after the loss of a loved one? Did your perspective shift and priorities change? Did you move somewhere else? I’d be really interested to hear how others have adjusted to their new life without their loved one.

  • Hello KS73, 

    First of all I am so sorry for your loss it must have been such a tough time for you and I am pleased to hear that a year on you are starting to come to terms with what happened. I can completely understand why you and your partner both feel at the moment like you need a fresh start and are considering moving to a different location. 

    You have asked a really interesting question and I wonder what life changes some of our members on the forum will have also had after the loss of a loved one, whether their priorities changed as a result and whether they also moved to a different place. I hope that we will hear from others here who have made similar life changes after a loved one passed away. 

    Best of luck with your new venture! I hope that you manage to move somewhere nice with your partner. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

  • Hey. 

    It's been almost 11 months since I lost my Mum, also to breast cancer. 

    It's been the hardest time and I'm still really struggling with it, my grief is very intense. 

    But like you, it's changed my whole outlook on life. I used to really care about brands and material things and what people thought of me. I no longer care for such things. I quit a job I hated. I don't spend time with people who don't add value to my life. I've realised how short and precious life is.

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