Hi. I think the normal rules don't apply here. Feel what you feel day by day. This is an enormous loss and I think the body and mind know it's too much to deal with at once, so these days of numbness are about respite from the big waves of grief. Have you ever swum in the sea? It can get scary. Initially its all calm but then the big waves come as you get further out and for a while you feel like you'll get pulled away from the shore, but then you reach a patch of calm water. I think griefs a bit like that. We all swim our own ocean too, so your way will be different to my way, and everyone else's. I say be as kind as you can to yourself and take the best care, so when the big waves hit you've got a bit of reserve in the tank to ride them out. Hope this makes sense.

Sorry for your loss, did you go in the end?