Hi Chrissie,

I'm very sorry to hear about your losses and hope you're doing well. I'm new to this forum and haven't spoken to anyone yet so I hope you don't mind me replying to your post. I think my current situation is very similar as my nan has lung and kidney cancer and only has a few weeks left. My grandad also has vascular dementia and he no longer lives with my nan as she couldn't take care of him any longer. I've never experienced loss before and I'm worried about my Nan's final days and how my grandad will react to the news. It's scary to think about and I regularly get upset when I think about the situation but I think writing this down has helped a little. 
Emma 

Hey hunnie, sorry to hear this. My nans started in breast and spread rapidly to her lungs, lymphs and brain. I've been an emotional wreck today but I know it's only natural. My grandad was in the last stages of his dementia so he didnt really know what was happening anyway. Does your grandad still remember your nan? I'm not going to lie to you the emotion and grief that will hit you will feel almost unbearable but you can get through it. The pain doesn't go away it just gets easier to manage. Saying that it's been a year on the 8th of June and it still feels like yesterday. Just remember don't shut people out, you will need all the love and support you can get. It helped me also writing my post out so I get what you mean xx

My grandad remembers her but he forgets about her cancer and always asks when he's coming back to live with her as he's in a care home at the moment. They're lovely at the home and he gets taken care of so I'm happy about that. I know dementia can be awful but at least my grandad isn't upset every day if he forgets about my nan I suppose. I have a big family and my mum always encourages me to talk to her and my dad which is great but I feel like I can't explain how I'm feeling sometimes. All of us in the family are feeling the same at the moment but trying to enjoy the time we have left with my nan. I make sure I'm positive around her but every time I leave I get upset. I've found it easier to write down how I'm feeling on here and reading it back makes it seems clearer in a way xx

Talking is a massive help but I'm with you, I find it difficult to talk to others about it. We can private message on here if you want and we can chat easier? xx

Yes if you don't mind! xx