Not sure how to cope

I lost my partner to cancer almost 4 months ago and he was 47. He had a ridiculously short battle and died 8 days after diagnosed. We didn't get to say goodbye as he was put to sleep to ease his pain, he thought he'd wake up. I lost him 2 days before Valentines Day and it would have been our first Valentine's Day although we weren't bothered celebrating it. It still feels surreal and everything reminds of him. We were planning to move in together and hoping to have a family. I feel so empty. 
 

 

  • Hi chickpeatv,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to read about your partner. I can only imagine how difficult this must be and how tough it was for it to have happened so quickly.

    I know there's not a lot I can say to help, other than to say we're always here for support should you need it. There will be others on this forum who have been through something similar, so I hope you find it helpful and a safe space to write down any thoughts you have.

    There is also additional support available should you feel you'd like to explore this, for example via the organisation Cruse.

    Try to keep believing that in time things will gradually start to get a little easier, or at least more manageable.

    Do keep speaking to others about how you feel as it does help to talk. And as I say, we're always here on this forum for support.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi chickpeatv, I just read your post and wondered how you were coping now more time has passed. I lost my husband of 40 years 10 weeks ago and l know what you mean about not being able to say goodbye I'm now having panic attacks and waiting for a counsellor via telephone. 

    Please know that you're not alone in your grief, talk about it or even post on here to get your feelings out. Sending you love at this difficult time.