Hello Cerberus,

Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm very sorry to hear about your dad and not being able to be with him, is such a horrible situation to be in. It's important to know there is no right or wrong way of dealing with a loved one dying with cancer and there are ways of getting support, so I hope this information above will be of use. The forum is always here for you and I'm sure our members will offer their support.

Thinking of you at this difficult time,

Moderater Anastasia

Reading this feels like im reading my own post  my dad was diagnosed with bowel and bladder cancer at the beginning of april and then mid april we were told terminal , i have mum and sister but have always been a daddys girl (40 now but that makes no difference) i would take it instead i feel it  i cant cry right now too much as i will fall open and apart   i am being upbeat for him and banter like we do.  I cant do anything else or i will fall apart i feel . so like before i joke i take one day a time but  i have planned for when a necklace to keep him with me forever .  The phone here im sure would help or i called macmillman only to ask a question but they were lovely and i broke down so that may be a good idea xx  

Thank you, this is helpful to know there are people out there who will talk. My dad and i banter over skype and i talk to him for hours at a time. I miss him because of lockdown i can't see him. It hurts real bad :/

I cannot imagine how much it is hurting you not being able to sit by his side :-(  . My dad  has mouth problems at the minute he stuck his tounge out to show me i told him "Oh daddy your just a nusiance we will get some medicine and get it sorted for you"  :grin: i have not changed with him at all  or gone soft lol that wouldnt be our relationship if i did.  :happy: 

I'm going through this too , my mums cancer has just been diagnosed from curable to incurable in the space of four months . It's so hard isn't it ?? I find myself just having to shut myself in the toilet to have a cry so the kids dont see me . Sometimes I'll just be washing the dishes and it hits me what's happening and I fall apart . It's just so scary isn't it , waiting for the inevitable to come . I hate it . My mum is my best friend and I'm scared of feeling the grief . I don't know how I'll cope but I'll have to . I have no choice my children will be grieving too I have to be strong for them . I understand your pain and it's totally fine to cry and it's totally normally to feel the pain your feeling . It's a testament to your love for your dad xx