Is it just me or does anyone else find that no one understands how it feels to lose your mum to this awful disease? I just can't seem to get myself heard. I feel like Im walking alone with no direction.
Hi there ..so sorry you lost your mum .., it is one of the hardest things we go through in life ..
But be easy on your self and others .. other people either have their mum, so can only imagine how it would feel .. and those of us that have lost our mum's, know all to well how it feels ..
She was your mum, so your grief is your grief ... but you'll never loose her, you can tuck her up in your heart and take her with you ... you could make a memory book, to show your kids what a lovely mum she was ...
So be kind to yourself .. I have cancer too, but if I go one day to it, l want to see my son, remember me, but make the most of his life, or I'll find a way to kick his butt ... your mum would want you to remember her befor cancer .. the mum that held you as a baby... taught you to walk ... took you to school .. watched you grow into a man ... that should turn a sad thought into a smile ...
We've been there ... it's just too painful for some to help others without bringing their pain back ...
i lost my mam 3 months ago and I’m still devastated. Everyone have just got on with their lives (obviously) and I suppose I have too but my heart hurts, everyday. It will hit me when I’m not even expecting. I wake up with an ache in my heart. It such an awful feeling.
I think I’m finding it more difficult with Covid as well. I’m a nurse and since returning to work I’ve been re deployed to the wards, seeing poorly patients is definitely tougher now than ever. It’s difficult to grieve with everything that’s going on right now.
Nobody truly understands what you’re going through. You’re not alone though, unfortunately there are lots of us struggling with the loss of our mams. I really feel for how you’re feeling but try and talk to whoever is there to listen.
I know what you are going through I lost my beautiful mum my best friend in April 9 from Coronavirus.
my life will never be the same again. Because of this bloody horrendous virus I can't get bereavement counselling either yet. The whole situation is disgusting. I pray this evil virus will just **** off soon and leave us alone . I hate cancer too so much it just gets all the greatest people. So many losing loved ones to this insidious disease.
my thoughts are with you also at this difficult and bewildering time. Take care and if you need to talk I'll be around ..
So very sorry you lost your mum. I understand how you feel, I lost my mum 3 months ago.
I'm about to start bereavement counselling from the hospice over the telephone this week. Is this something that you could consider? Until others experience what you are going through they will never understand. It really has been the hardest experience of my life.
I also find reading different posts on this forum helps as it make you realise you aren't alone. If only we didn't have to say goodbye to those we love.
I know exactly how you are feeling. The fact is grief is such a personal journey depending on the relationship you had with the person that is gone. Everyone reacts slightly differently. In our case it was our Mum, one of the single most important relationships you can have.
I've felt very lonely through the last 11 months without her. Unfortunately, people will only ever truly understand what its like to lose their Mum when they lose theirs. Lately I have been feeling quite resentful to friends who still have their Mums. Grief really brings out all the emotions! It also throws all of your other relationships off. My Mum was the glue that held my step family together and now she's gone I just feel so different.
What I can say (and what people told me) is that the raw sadness does fade a bit. The aching in my heart is still there but it is getting easier to cope with. Now there is just an emptiness and I miss her so much. Grief is a long and difficult path to walk. I find this message board helps so much and it's nice to know that we have each other.
