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I lost my mum on the 28th of March 2020

Kelly12
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I'm struggling to cope with the fact my mums passed away she was fighting to different cancers lung cancer and bowel cancer .I'm hurting so bad my head is all over the place and im trying to stay strong for the sake of my family and my dad because its such a horrible time right night what with this coronavirus .not being able to be with my sisters and brother my dad is doing his best to support us but its should be us supportin him .we can't give her proper send of as we can only have 10 people there wicth is is children and my dad none of the grandchildren can go nore can I have my husband there to support me I'm not coping with it I just want to wake up and think its just a bad dream :neutral:

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    Hi I have just read your post and wanted to reply as I lost my beautiful, amazing mum yesterday afternoon and completely heartbroken. I was my mums Carer and she was my bestest friend. I really need someone to talk to right now who understands the pain as the thought of my mum not having a proper send off is also heartrenching. 71 years on this earth and this is how she is taken and how we get to say goodbye. 
     

    I am sending you my love xxx

  • Offline in reply to Lanash1980

    Hi both of you.

     

    My angel mum passed on 9 April - she had the corona virus which was too much for her to cope with she already had cancer and lung issues in the end it was just too much. She died with my husband holding her hand. Just 72 years old also. To me that's too young but I know deep inside mum didn't want to battle cancer and it's cruel treatments and die a slow death (she was stage 4 at diagnosis) what hurts though is the hospital's DNR form they made her sign . I feel they wanted her to die and that tears me up.

    There will be no funeral for mum. No body can go because of this virus. Her ashes will be given to us & we will have a little celebration of her life as soon as we can & then place her ashes in a place she loved. My life will never be the same without her. 
     

     

  • Offline in reply to Lanash1980

    Hi hun first off I'm so sorry for loss honestly I know how your feeling trust me every  night I find myself crying in the bathroom so my family don't see me my body feels like I'm not a person cos I'm so empty and lonely at the moment I don't want to expect she's gone my youngest daughter who is 8 asked me the other day when is nanny coming home because the lockdown will be over soon she will be safe i just held back my tears and looked away im  always being told its will get easier but I'm sorry i don't think it will just please stay safe and stay strong im here if you need a chat i will do my best to help you as I'm trying to help myself xxxxxxx

  • Offline in reply to IHateCancer1988

    I'm sorry for your loss hun its a really hard time for everyone at the moment but the ones like us losing are loved ones its even harder its something we all no we have to deal with some time in are life but not like this my heart goes out to u its really does hun im not going to tell u it will get easier because everyone deals with things in there own way but please stay strong and stay safe xxxxx

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