Hi all, 

My dad lost his battle with cancer on 27th March and it was a battle.  He put up a great fight but he could not win it. His last few months were horrendous, originally he had lung cancer , this later spread to his spine and brain. He lost the use of his arms one at a time, then his legs, near the end he couldn't even swallow.  It was heatbreaking as he was always a very fit man who couldn't sit still, and because of the tumours he would forget why he couldn't move and we would have to explain each time he asked us to get him up. To watch your strong dad crying in agony but still trying to fight  death was agony. He did not deserve to die like that - no one does. The hospice did their best to make him  comfortable and I think he was in the last few hours which was a relief. 

At this point and reading a lot of posts on here - I think this could have worked out differently for him and I'm angry. Like a lot of people said - original cancer had been treated by removing  his lung and after 3 -3 monthly checks had been cleared. But why are these checks only done on the originally affected area? Apparently lung cancer is the most common to spread to other areas but on check ups only his chest area was scanned, x-rayed- why not the whole body as this would have picked up the new cancer forming in his spine. Also after removing some of the tumour - chemo was scheduled after radiotherapy . They canx the chemo due to start beginning of November as they said on inspection the cells didn't seem  consistent with lung cancer and could possibly be bowel cancer. He had no symptoms of bowel cancer but they wasted 8 weeks doing a bowel scan and taking a polyp - all clear. Even the spinal surgeon told us when cancer travels to a different part of the body it changes and he wasn't even a cancer specialist. 

So  after being told at the start of November it was fine to delay chemo and there was no urgency for it- at the end of December the spinal cancer had spread rapidly, and to his brain and he had a brain bleed. It was too late for the chemo and I can't help thinking if he had it when he should have then he might be still here now. 

Has anyone else had similar experience?